Your Boaz??

Who Are You Really Waiting On....

I'm sure I'm not the only one who have seen all the post or blogs with women talking about "Waiting on my Boaz". Now of course if you read the story most women who are ready to be married & settled down would love a Boaz but here is my point:

How can you want someone else man? You see Boaz belonged to Ruth & with you saying you're waiting on "your" Boaz it's saying you're waiting on someone else husband, and then you wonder why "Boaz" hasn't came into your life. When praying & believing God for your mate you have to be specific about what you want but you can't ask God for someone else man, it's just not going to work out well for you because remember the same way God hears your prayers so does Satan. He will send you what you think is "Your Boaz" but in truth it will be anything but, instead you will get stuck with some fake imitations like....

1. Po-az

2. Lyin-az

3. Broke-az

4. Cheatin-az

5. Dumb-az

6. Drunk-az 

7. Cheap-az

8. Lockedup-az

9. Lazy-az

and the worst of them all

10. Beatinyo-az

Now being honest how many woman really want that type of man in their life full-time....don't worry I'll tell you NOT ONE!!

See ladies you have to be patient & wait you can't just go to a store & build the perfect man, the man that is perfect for you has to be shaped & molded by God Himself because He knows exactly what you need in a mate & He loves you enough not to just send you any Ole-az. Ladies while you are waiting try praying for your mate & stop praying for someone else mate, Boaz belonged to Ruth so he's not for you. Why don't you instead pray for someone like Boaz, pray for your mate to possess the great qualities that Boaz possessed & not for Boaz. I'm also sure most of you don't even know who Boaz was so I'm going to break it down for you....

Boaz was the type of man who hears about your good works and completely favors you because he sees that you are a woman of virtue & worth. Boaz was not the type of man who was turned on by the physical appearance of Ruth's body or by her calling herself a "bad bitch". You see Ruth represented herself well and her actions were a reflection of her virtuous nature.

A man that truly appreciates your all around worth is a man worthy of your service & submission.

Don't just settle for a imitation Boaz, ask God for your own mate not Ruth's mate.

CHELLE B.

Are You Willing To Speak Up....

Don't Be Silent With Domestic Violence

For the life of me I'll never understand why a man would want to physically harm someone that they claim to love, what gives them the right to feel that they're justified in abusing someone else. To me a man that abuses a woman is coward, a punk & would flee if a man came at them the way they go after the lady....

I'm going to start off with the obvious:

LOVE DOESN'T HURT

I'm pretty sure everyone is tired of hearing this but the sad part of it is no matter how tired you are of hearing it it will always be true.

Love don't hurt, love don't look sad, love is not a destructive force

it's an empowering force. Love smiles, love is happy, love protects, provide, support & uplifts a person; love NEVER knocks you down & make you feel less than what you are. Love is respectful & caring, love is never jealous & controlling. 

Do you know that 1 in every 4 women will experience some type of domestic violence in their lifetime & that every 9 seconds a woman is abused by someone who claims to love them & more than half will never report the abuse for fear of not being believed & retaliation if the courts don't do their part. I've heard many people say "Why won't they just leave, they must like it" well me know that is always easier than done & none of us can actually what we will & won't do until we're in that situation. 

Abusers have to learn & know that NO MATTER WHAT it's never OK to put your hands on your mate & proving you're a man is not putting your hands on a woman, it's being able to walk away from the situation before you do. Walking away doesn't make you weak, walking away makes you a strong grown man. 

How can you claim to love your mate don't but mind seeing them look like this:

We must also remember that domestic violence isn't just physical it's also verbal & most of the time verbal abuse can do more damage than the physical abuse because where as bruises heal those words will stick with you forever. 

Whoever said "Words don't hurt" were sadly mistaken, words have caused people to take their own lives.  

Think about this the next time you raise your hand to hit a woman: Would you tolerate a man putting his hands on your mother or your daughter? Do you know what they do to women abusers in prison, keep up the foolishness & you'll find out. 

CHELLE B.

**Hypocrisy In The Christian Community**

Now since this election started there has been much mud slinging & ditch digging from one party to the next & I can't honestly say who's done the most {I can I just won't}. We have to face facts that somewhere down the line we failed ourselves because it was the lack of knowledge or not caring enough to vote that actually put the people in place that allowed them to even be considered. 

Now with that being said I've seen many Christian's endorse a man that has done & said some of the foulest things ever spoken by a presidential candidate, they've made excuses for all the wrong he's done. I truly understand the art of forgiveness but I also understand the art of holding a person accountable for their bad actions & instead of reprimand they gave excuses & praise. And people wonder why so many have issues with "the church" & religion, well this is one of the reasons. You have some that have been judge, jury & executioner for Hillary stating things in her past but have been quick to forgive Trump for the things in his past & some even present. The last time I checked it's not up to us to judge anyone but it seems many have forgotten about that. How can you hold one person accountable for their wrong doings but not the other, where is God in that? Now I'm sure most of you Christian's are voting for him because you all are republicans & therefore share the same values as you but that is not true, as a matter of fact if you all are honest with yourselves y'all truly don't know where he stands on any real issues. You say Hillary is a killer because she supports "abortions", really does that make her a killer or a person who feels the government shouldn't have a say so over a lady's body, where as Trump wants Roe v Wade overturned. Many of you have been quick to say that she stood behind her cheating husband when clearly the marriage vows say for better or worse. Yet y'all uphold a man that has been married 3 times & cheated on all his wives {facts}. You all condemn her & call her a racist yet so is Donald & he's let that be known many many times, plus this man has shown little to no respect for females of all racist. You all have called her a liar but once again Donald has had to moonwalk himself out of several dumb idiotic lies he's told. 

Bottom line is this: STOP using God to justify why you're voting for this loud, foul mouth, woman hating, non-christian, lying hypocrite. STOP using the word "moral" where it involves him because he has shown none!! 

Say Ouch or Amen!!!!

It seems to me that hypocrites gravitate towards each other .....

Conversations With Chelle 

Chelle B.

Innocent Lives Lost By A Coward

I have to say I still sit here in unbelief by the senseless act of a coward who took 49 innocent lives.

I want to say my heart, tears, concerns & prayers go out to all the families & friends that lost a dear sweet love one to such hateful act. My prayers are with Orlando during such a tragic time.

 

 

I have sat & read so many ignorant & hateful comments from people that I saw fit to do this post. Yes I identify myself as Christian and to me that means love & not passing judgment on anyone for anything, as the saying goes "who am I to judge" my life isn't stellar. Now with that being said I want to know how can people fix their mouths to say this happened because it was a "gay" club. Now if you truly feel that way then tell me why did the shooting in South Carolina happen, because we all know it happened at a CHURCH? See I wish people would actually sit & think before they start opening their mouths & spewing such hatred. I'm not to sure about many others but from my understanding the God I have a relationship with is a God of  love & not hate, so for me to see so many so called Christians say such negative & hateful things about such a tragic situation it really bothers me. We are here to pray for one another, send good vibes to one another not criticize & put down one another simply because their beliefs are different than yours, you can only give in account of your life and no one else. I also want to know why does it seem that homosexuality is the only sin in the world, when clearly it's not. But from my understanding "Love the person, hate the sin", isn't that what the bible says, meaning you show love & caring no matter what!!

Now once again to those who are saying the "terrorist" choose this club simply because it was a gay club did you wait on the reports to read that he originally had plans to attack Disney World {I guess because DW is the gayest[happiest] place on Earth} but at the last minute went into Pulse, a "gay" night club that he was known to frequent? See people are so quick to open their big mouths so they can get their little 5 seconds of fame on a camera or social media without even having all or even half the facts. I'm sure as the week goes on more & more information will come out about who this guy was but in the end we will never truly know the real reason as to why he did what he did.

So how about we take our focus off of the killer & place it where it belongs with the families & love ones of everyone involved and on gun control of our nation.

People love who they love it's no one's place to judge them or criticize for that.

 

I don't have a full list but here a few names that I was able to get, I'm working on compiling a full list.

My Prayers Are With These Families & Love Ones......

 

 

CONVERSATIONS WITH CHELLE

CHELLE B.





Freedom....Freedom....Freedom....Freedom

How Do You Define Freedom??

 

 

It's amazing how one word can have a different meaning to many people. To some the word Freedom means "Being you without anyone's permission".

But to me Freedom isn't doing what we want to do, it's doing things that keeps us out of bondage, because no one can ever be truly free if they're living in bondage.

Can you truly say you have "FREEDOM" or is there something or someone that has you bound?

Your freedom lies within your hands & no one else!!

 

‪#‎AreYouFree‬ ‪#‎OrAreYouBound‬ ‪#‎Freedom‬ ‪#‎NoBondage‬

 

 

CHELLE B. 



PETTY....PETTY....PETTY....PETTY

Ok how many times have you heard the phrase or phrases

"Stop being so petty"

"Oooh you're just so petty"

"Petty is as petty does"

 

Well if you're anything like me you've heard an overuse of the word but also guilty of using it yourself a time or two. Since I know we as people have our own version of what every word in the "urban" dictionary means I decided to just research it for myself and here is what I found....

 

1. When someone takes a small subject & blows it out of proportion

Basically making a mountain out of a mole hill.

 

2. Being deliberately nasty or rude for no reason

Basically being childish.

 

Now with all that being said & reading the meaning of the word I want to say this, it's bad enough that so called grown women are going around being all petty, especially on social media but when you run across a grown man that's doing it, it's a major turnoff. There is nothing appealing to a grown woman about a petty man, the same way I'm sure no grown man likes a petty woman & if they do then they both have some growing up to do. If you find yourself acting out of character all because of what someone else has done or is doing then you're really making a fool out of yourself & not even realizing you're actually pushing that person away & not drawing them to you, being petty is the worse thing a person can do in a relationship. So while you're sitting back thinking "Bam I got them", what you've really gotten yourself is a single status.

 

If you're confused as to what I'm talking about let me explain it real quick.....

1. Don't call me, I won't call you {petty}

2. Won't answer my questions in a timely fashion, I'll ignore you {petty}

3. Won't like my stuff, I won't like yours {petty}

4. Your phone is locked I'll lock mine {petty}

5. Won't help me, I won't help you {petty}

 

Now back to what I was saying, I hate a petty female but since most females are naturally jealous of other females for no reason it's kind of to be expected, but I truly despise a petty man/boy. You see I feel men are suppose to be strong, show strength & stand their grounds but when they resort going tit for tat then that becomes a major turnoff & will push a person away from them quicker than cheating will. Changing your actions to become petty all because you think it will draw the person to you is a sure fire way to get yourself 1st place in the singles line.

 

But to those who choose to act petty here's a little something from me to you....

 

 

Chelle B.



 

 



Helping Another..........Burning Bridges



 

Do It Out Of Love Or Not At All....Don't Cut Off A Helping Hand  

 

 

I’m sure if you’re reading this at some point in your life you’ve lent a helping hand to someone who needed it, I’m also sure that someone has extended that same courtesy to you so therefore you should truly understand what I’m about to say.
If you’re going to do something or offer help to someone you should just do it without making demands or expecting anything in return, that even includes a simple “Thank You”, you shouldn’t expect someone to jump through hoops just to receive your help if your offer to help is coming from a good place. If you’re going to offer help then it should be between the two of you unless they choose to tell someone of the “blessing” they received from you. When helping someone it should be done from the heart & not from expectancy, you should never throw back up in someone's face what you’ve done for them because in doing so it shows that you may have had an ulterior motive to begin with, which is why you offered it in the first place. Ask yourself how would you feel if the roles were reversed and they did it to you.


Now if someone has ever helped you, if they have ever stepped up when everyone else stepped back & out of the blue you get angry with them because things didn’t go your way or you just decide to cut them off and or end the friendship for whatever reason you should at least extend them the common courtesy as to why. You should not leave them in the dark & have them guessing, I mean surely given all they may have done for you over they years they deserve at least that much from you.

Bottom Line Is This: Just because you feel you’re in a better place at the moment you never know what each day holds so you may want to be careful of the bridges you burn, once burnt there is no rebuilding. You have to be mindful of the people you help, because no matter how much you may want too it’s not meant for you to help everyone.

Because With Me It's Not Going To Happen!!

As The Saying Goes

The Bridge You Burn Today Could Very

Well Be The One You Need To Cross

Tomorrow....

 

CHELLE B.