PETTY....PETTY....PETTY....PETTY

Ok how many times have you heard the phrase or phrases

"Stop being so petty"

"Oooh you're just so petty"

"Petty is as petty does"

 

Well if you're anything like me you've heard an overuse of the word but also guilty of using it yourself a time or two. Since I know we as people have our own version of what every word in the "urban" dictionary means I decided to just research it for myself and here is what I found....

 

1. When someone takes a small subject & blows it out of proportion

Basically making a mountain out of a mole hill.

 

2. Being deliberately nasty or rude for no reason

Basically being childish.

 

Now with all that being said & reading the meaning of the word I want to say this, it's bad enough that so called grown women are going around being all petty, especially on social media but when you run across a grown man that's doing it, it's a major turnoff. There is nothing appealing to a grown woman about a petty man, the same way I'm sure no grown man likes a petty woman & if they do then they both have some growing up to do. If you find yourself acting out of character all because of what someone else has done or is doing then you're really making a fool out of yourself & not even realizing you're actually pushing that person away & not drawing them to you, being petty is the worse thing a person can do in a relationship. So while you're sitting back thinking "Bam I got them", what you've really gotten yourself is a single status.

 

If you're confused as to what I'm talking about let me explain it real quick.....

1. Don't call me, I won't call you {petty}

2. Won't answer my questions in a timely fashion, I'll ignore you {petty}

3. Won't like my stuff, I won't like yours {petty}

4. Your phone is locked I'll lock mine {petty}

5. Won't help me, I won't help you {petty}

 

Now back to what I was saying, I hate a petty female but since most females are naturally jealous of other females for no reason it's kind of to be expected, but I truly despise a petty man/boy. You see I feel men are suppose to be strong, show strength & stand their grounds but when they resort going tit for tat then that becomes a major turnoff & will push a person away from them quicker than cheating will. Changing your actions to become petty all because you think it will draw the person to you is a sure fire way to get yourself 1st place in the singles line.

 

But to those who choose to act petty here's a little something from me to you....

 

 

Chelle B.



 

 



Helping Another..........Burning Bridges



 

Do It Out Of Love Or Not At All....Don't Cut Off A Helping Hand  

 

 

I’m sure if you’re reading this at some point in your life you’ve lent a helping hand to someone who needed it, I’m also sure that someone has extended that same courtesy to you so therefore you should truly understand what I’m about to say.
If you’re going to do something or offer help to someone you should just do it without making demands or expecting anything in return, that even includes a simple “Thank You”, you shouldn’t expect someone to jump through hoops just to receive your help if your offer to help is coming from a good place. If you’re going to offer help then it should be between the two of you unless they choose to tell someone of the “blessing” they received from you. When helping someone it should be done from the heart & not from expectancy, you should never throw back up in someone's face what you’ve done for them because in doing so it shows that you may have had an ulterior motive to begin with, which is why you offered it in the first place. Ask yourself how would you feel if the roles were reversed and they did it to you.


Now if someone has ever helped you, if they have ever stepped up when everyone else stepped back & out of the blue you get angry with them because things didn’t go your way or you just decide to cut them off and or end the friendship for whatever reason you should at least extend them the common courtesy as to why. You should not leave them in the dark & have them guessing, I mean surely given all they may have done for you over they years they deserve at least that much from you.

Bottom Line Is This: Just because you feel you’re in a better place at the moment you never know what each day holds so you may want to be careful of the bridges you burn, once burnt there is no rebuilding. You have to be mindful of the people you help, because no matter how much you may want too it’s not meant for you to help everyone.

Because With Me It's Not Going To Happen!!

As The Saying Goes

The Bridge You Burn Today Could Very

Well Be The One You Need To Cross

Tomorrow....

 

CHELLE B.