Falling Is Easy....

I often sit and wonder why is it so easy to fall in love, but yet so hard to let go and move on when you know in your heart of hearts that person is not the right person for you, or when you know the relationship has ran it's course. We often try to figure out why is it so easy to love all the wrong people but so hard to love and care for all the right people, the ones who will love us back the way that we deserve to be loved. Why does it always seems like we meet the right person at the wrong time and then we meet the wrong person at the right time then you end up with an old person with new lies or go to a new person with old lies. After a while it starts to get a little bit confusing and you feel as though you just want to give up on love and say no more, but then you realize you will just end up lonely and miserable and since you've been there and done that you're not trying to do it again. There are times you want to say or feel things but you don't, so you end up thinking if it's right or wrong. But at times we forget feelings don't have boundaries unlike the norms of life made by us, we have to realize that sometimes it's best to just let those feelings flow. You see there is no time frame on falling in love or loving someone, but if it happens quicker than you thought it should have then you just may want to pump the brakes so you can slow down and assess the situation and or relationship, you may want to evaluate your feelings and make sure they are real and not just a strong lust attraction. 

See we as people make the mistake that when we are trying to get to know someone we tell them too much upfront instead of just taking our time and spacing out the information. You see people will sit and listen to you so they can better figure out how to get to you and they will play on those feelings they know you have for them. If allowed they will take full advantage of you based off the information that you provided them in the "get to know me stage".  We have to learn how to not give up so much information so that we won't end up being used and mistreated.

I promise you that if you pay attention to the other person and if they are not on the up and up there will be signs, you just have to take your blinders off so you will be able to see them. It's not easy to drive around in the dark if you have shades on. You should never be so blind and needy that you choose to ignore the signs, the same way they say crazy leave clues, well so does lies. All you have to do is be willing to pay attention and listen.

Love was never meant to be hard or hurtful, people make it that way when they feel as though the need or deserve more than one person at a time. They are only thinking about themselves and not the heartache and break that will be caused if everything comes out in the open. Remember this "What's done in the dark shall surly come to the light!" That saying will never get old and shall always remain true despite any nay-sayer's.

When most of us fall in love we intended on it to be forever but that forever will never come if the person you're with doesn't share the same feelings as you.

So like I said it's easy to fall in love, just make sure someone is there to catch you when you do.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

CHELLE B.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

       

Tragedy So Why The Negativity

 

A small community was rocked by a big tragedy Saturday, April 27, 2013
You would think after this tragedy more people would be able to come together and forget all their pettiness but that really hasn't been the case for everyone.

A mother and four small children lost their lives to a tragic house fire. There were many lives affected because the mother was not the only mother or parent to lose her kids. There were two other mothers who lost the baby girls, there was a father and husband who lost his kids and wife, you had a mother who lost her daughter and granddaughters and you had three young girls who not only lost their mother but their sisters also. This has not been easy on anyone, even if you weren't part of the family or didn't know them personally {which I am and did} you could not hear this story and not be touched by it. You had a mother give up her life trying to save the lives of four small girls ages 5, 3, 2, and 1, the only one she was able to save was her 11 year old daughter by getting her to go to a window where she was pulled out by some young men in the neighborhood.  

Now given the magnitude of this tragedy and all the lives that it touched why is there still so much division, why are there so many negatives things being spoke about a young 27 year old mother who gave up her life trying to save the lives of others? I feel that and we see that no matter what the outcome was people will forever have negative things to say. It's sad because people talk about you when you come into this world, they talk about you while you're in this world and they will continue to talk about you when you leave this world. I think people tend to forget they have no heaven or hell to put anyone in and when they leave this world while they are here busy judging others they shall surely be judged when they are gone. No matte what someone did when they were younger or even the day before doesn't matter to God so why should it matter to you? Every day that a person wakes up they have the opportunity to change their lives and at that point nothing else matters at all to God one way or the other. How can people bring their mouths to say half of the things they are saying and how can people bring their minds to even for a second entertain such foolishness. None of that matters the only thing that matters is that she gave up her life to try and save the life of others, why is that being overlooked and not talked about. I wouldn't care if she was standing in her back yard when all this happened the fact remains the same, she lost her life trying to save those babies.

It's just sad that at a time like this the things that people will do and say, the only thing we can do is pray for the lost, misguided, and ignorant people. We were never put here to judge anyone that is not our place or our job that is for God and God alone. Show me a person without sin and I'll show you a person who hasn't been born yet. There is no person walking the face of this earth without a past and the key word is past. We all have the God given right to change our lives around for the better and once we repent and give ourselves to God there is nothing anyone can say or do to change that. As long as we receive God's forgiveness, people's forgiveness no longer matters because they don't have a Heaven or a Hell to put you in.
A young mother risked her life to save not just her babies by birth but 2 other babies also. That alone speaks a lot for her character so all the other crap she did when she was younger or even the day before no longer mattered. People can say they would have did the same thing but I can't bet if put in that same situation the ones doing all the bad mouthing would have left those babies in there and saved themselves.

 

This was written in orange because that was her favorite color.

CHELLE B.