Your Boaz??

Who Are You Really Waiting On....

I'm sure I'm not the only one who have seen all the post or blogs with women talking about "Waiting on my Boaz". Now of course if you read the story most women who are ready to be married & settled down would love a Boaz but here is my point:

How can you want someone else man? You see Boaz belonged to Ruth & with you saying you're waiting on "your" Boaz it's saying you're waiting on someone else husband, and then you wonder why "Boaz" hasn't came into your life. When praying & believing God for your mate you have to be specific about what you want but you can't ask God for someone else man, it's just not going to work out well for you because remember the same way God hears your prayers so does Satan. He will send you what you think is "Your Boaz" but in truth it will be anything but, instead you will get stuck with some fake imitations like....

1. Po-az

2. Lyin-az

3. Broke-az

4. Cheatin-az

5. Dumb-az

6. Drunk-az 

7. Cheap-az

8. Lockedup-az

9. Lazy-az

and the worst of them all

10. Beatinyo-az

Now being honest how many woman really want that type of man in their life full-time....don't worry I'll tell you NOT ONE!!

See ladies you have to be patient & wait you can't just go to a store & build the perfect man, the man that is perfect for you has to be shaped & molded by God Himself because He knows exactly what you need in a mate & He loves you enough not to just send you any Ole-az. Ladies while you are waiting try praying for your mate & stop praying for someone else mate, Boaz belonged to Ruth so he's not for you. Why don't you instead pray for someone like Boaz, pray for your mate to possess the great qualities that Boaz possessed & not for Boaz. I'm also sure most of you don't even know who Boaz was so I'm going to break it down for you....

Boaz was the type of man who hears about your good works and completely favors you because he sees that you are a woman of virtue & worth. Boaz was not the type of man who was turned on by the physical appearance of Ruth's body or by her calling herself a "bad bitch". You see Ruth represented herself well and her actions were a reflection of her virtuous nature.

A man that truly appreciates your all around worth is a man worthy of your service & submission.

Don't just settle for a imitation Boaz, ask God for your own mate not Ruth's mate.

CHELLE B.

Are You Willing To Speak Up....

Don't Be Silent With Domestic Violence

For the life of me I'll never understand why a man would want to physically harm someone that they claim to love, what gives them the right to feel that they're justified in abusing someone else. To me a man that abuses a woman is coward, a punk & would flee if a man came at them the way they go after the lady....

I'm going to start off with the obvious:

LOVE DOESN'T HURT

I'm pretty sure everyone is tired of hearing this but the sad part of it is no matter how tired you are of hearing it it will always be true.

Love don't hurt, love don't look sad, love is not a destructive force

it's an empowering force. Love smiles, love is happy, love protects, provide, support & uplifts a person; love NEVER knocks you down & make you feel less than what you are. Love is respectful & caring, love is never jealous & controlling. 

Do you know that 1 in every 4 women will experience some type of domestic violence in their lifetime & that every 9 seconds a woman is abused by someone who claims to love them & more than half will never report the abuse for fear of not being believed & retaliation if the courts don't do their part. I've heard many people say "Why won't they just leave, they must like it" well me know that is always easier than done & none of us can actually what we will & won't do until we're in that situation. 

Abusers have to learn & know that NO MATTER WHAT it's never OK to put your hands on your mate & proving you're a man is not putting your hands on a woman, it's being able to walk away from the situation before you do. Walking away doesn't make you weak, walking away makes you a strong grown man. 

How can you claim to love your mate don't but mind seeing them look like this:

We must also remember that domestic violence isn't just physical it's also verbal & most of the time verbal abuse can do more damage than the physical abuse because where as bruises heal those words will stick with you forever. 

Whoever said "Words don't hurt" were sadly mistaken, words have caused people to take their own lives.  

Think about this the next time you raise your hand to hit a woman: Would you tolerate a man putting his hands on your mother or your daughter? Do you know what they do to women abusers in prison, keep up the foolishness & you'll find out. 

CHELLE B.

**Hypocrisy In The Christian Community**

Now since this election started there has been much mud slinging & ditch digging from one party to the next & I can't honestly say who's done the most {I can I just won't}. We have to face facts that somewhere down the line we failed ourselves because it was the lack of knowledge or not caring enough to vote that actually put the people in place that allowed them to even be considered. 

Now with that being said I've seen many Christian's endorse a man that has done & said some of the foulest things ever spoken by a presidential candidate, they've made excuses for all the wrong he's done. I truly understand the art of forgiveness but I also understand the art of holding a person accountable for their bad actions & instead of reprimand they gave excuses & praise. And people wonder why so many have issues with "the church" & religion, well this is one of the reasons. You have some that have been judge, jury & executioner for Hillary stating things in her past but have been quick to forgive Trump for the things in his past & some even present. The last time I checked it's not up to us to judge anyone but it seems many have forgotten about that. How can you hold one person accountable for their wrong doings but not the other, where is God in that? Now I'm sure most of you Christian's are voting for him because you all are republicans & therefore share the same values as you but that is not true, as a matter of fact if you all are honest with yourselves y'all truly don't know where he stands on any real issues. You say Hillary is a killer because she supports "abortions", really does that make her a killer or a person who feels the government shouldn't have a say so over a lady's body, where as Trump wants Roe v Wade overturned. Many of you have been quick to say that she stood behind her cheating husband when clearly the marriage vows say for better or worse. Yet y'all uphold a man that has been married 3 times & cheated on all his wives {facts}. You all condemn her & call her a racist yet so is Donald & he's let that be known many many times, plus this man has shown little to no respect for females of all racist. You all have called her a liar but once again Donald has had to moonwalk himself out of several dumb idiotic lies he's told. 

Bottom line is this: STOP using God to justify why you're voting for this loud, foul mouth, woman hating, non-christian, lying hypocrite. STOP using the word "moral" where it involves him because he has shown none!! 

Say Ouch or Amen!!!!

It seems to me that hypocrites gravitate towards each other .....

Conversations With Chelle 

Chelle B.

Innocent Lives Lost By A Coward

I have to say I still sit here in unbelief by the senseless act of a coward who took 49 innocent lives.

I want to say my heart, tears, concerns & prayers go out to all the families & friends that lost a dear sweet love one to such hateful act. My prayers are with Orlando during such a tragic time.

 

 

I have sat & read so many ignorant & hateful comments from people that I saw fit to do this post. Yes I identify myself as Christian and to me that means love & not passing judgment on anyone for anything, as the saying goes "who am I to judge" my life isn't stellar. Now with that being said I want to know how can people fix their mouths to say this happened because it was a "gay" club. Now if you truly feel that way then tell me why did the shooting in South Carolina happen, because we all know it happened at a CHURCH? See I wish people would actually sit & think before they start opening their mouths & spewing such hatred. I'm not to sure about many others but from my understanding the God I have a relationship with is a God of  love & not hate, so for me to see so many so called Christians say such negative & hateful things about such a tragic situation it really bothers me. We are here to pray for one another, send good vibes to one another not criticize & put down one another simply because their beliefs are different than yours, you can only give in account of your life and no one else. I also want to know why does it seem that homosexuality is the only sin in the world, when clearly it's not. But from my understanding "Love the person, hate the sin", isn't that what the bible says, meaning you show love & caring no matter what!!

Now once again to those who are saying the "terrorist" choose this club simply because it was a gay club did you wait on the reports to read that he originally had plans to attack Disney World {I guess because DW is the gayest[happiest] place on Earth} but at the last minute went into Pulse, a "gay" night club that he was known to frequent? See people are so quick to open their big mouths so they can get their little 5 seconds of fame on a camera or social media without even having all or even half the facts. I'm sure as the week goes on more & more information will come out about who this guy was but in the end we will never truly know the real reason as to why he did what he did.

So how about we take our focus off of the killer & place it where it belongs with the families & love ones of everyone involved and on gun control of our nation.

People love who they love it's no one's place to judge them or criticize for that.

 

I don't have a full list but here a few names that I was able to get, I'm working on compiling a full list.

My Prayers Are With These Families & Love Ones......

 

 

CONVERSATIONS WITH CHELLE

CHELLE B.





Freedom....Freedom....Freedom....Freedom

How Do You Define Freedom??

 

 

It's amazing how one word can have a different meaning to many people. To some the word Freedom means "Being you without anyone's permission".

But to me Freedom isn't doing what we want to do, it's doing things that keeps us out of bondage, because no one can ever be truly free if they're living in bondage.

Can you truly say you have "FREEDOM" or is there something or someone that has you bound?

Your freedom lies within your hands & no one else!!

 

‪#‎AreYouFree‬ ‪#‎OrAreYouBound‬ ‪#‎Freedom‬ ‪#‎NoBondage‬

 

 

CHELLE B. 



The Great Snap Debate

My oh my where do I even begin with this one right here, guess the only thing to do is just jump right to it.

I've been seeing certain stupid post {yes I called them stupid you will soon see why} then after seeing a YouTube video a few days ago where a lady was literally in line at a store berating & cursing a young father out not only in front of his kid but also hers & the words that were coming out her mouth was just pure ignorant & I feel sorry for her son because of the things she's teaching him.

Now in case you haven't figured out what I'm talking about I'll tell you, there seems to be this BIG misconception about the use of food stamps, I see all these ignorant pictures like this right here....

 

Now correct me if I'm wrong but if a person has kids, no job & they're receiving food stamps then those stamps only last for so long. What do you think the parents do when the food runs out before the next month comes, now tell the people what do your hardworking self do when your food runs out? See you have more income coming in & go out and purchase food items if need be but a family receiving food stamps don't have that luxury, they have to "get by" the best way they can. I'm not really sure how much people seem to think a person gets monthly in food stamps but I'm sure it's way less than they make working where they may get paid 4 times or month or twice a month. Also people would be surprised at the people who work but still get food stamps to try & help subsidize their minimal income so their kids can at least have a decent meal during the week.
I don't seem to understand why the food stamp shaming is taking place, I've spoken with several people on both sides of the spectrum & I can assure you that those who get stamps would gladly trade places with those of you who unlucky people who have to pay for your food with cash. They would trade places with you because they feel they would have a sustainable income where they can better provide for their kids & they wouldn't have to rely on so many processed foods just to make their food budget stretch month to month. How many of you would be willing to try & make it an entire month off of the amount of stamps that they get & yes you have to take in account the amount of  mouths they have to feed oppose to the amount you have to feed? I've seen several "celebrities" take the "food stamp" challenge & many of them have been honest & said they don't see how it's done.

See I've been on both sides of the spectrum & I can honestly say that I prefer working & buying groceries every pay period oppose to once a month, I can honestly tell you that I bought more groceries with cash every month than I did with food stamps. So if you're feeling some type of way about the buggy on the left & think it's so unfair because you're a hard working tax payer let me leave you with this small bit of information to chew on while you're being pissed off about someone actually using their Snap benefits for feeding their kids......



Now about the woman {and others who think like her} that was berating the man in the store for using food stamps & claiming that she pays so much out her taxes for people like him, since she's so smart she might want to fact check herself & realize that $1 of every $5 spent to purchase items on food stamps is spent at WalMart. And because of Walmart’s low wages, even full-time employees often still qualify for benefits. She would also know that the amount of taxes coming out of her paycheck {if what she's saying is true about her paying taxes}for the snap program amount to only around $0.10 cents a day, which when added up is only $36.50 a year.
So next time before you repost one of the ignorant "memes" about anything you may want to fact check yourself so you won't end up looking like a donkey's backside in the long run.

You never know what someone's story is, so why bully & shame them for trying

to feed their kids the best way they can, which happens to be Snap benefits.

 



CHELLE B.  

Biggest Lie Ever Told....Wants vs Needs

 

I sit & just listen to people talk & I have to say that the biggest lie I've ever heard someone say is......

I NEED SEX.

Now forgive me if I'm wrong but the last time I checked no one has ever died from not having sex, but I do know they have died from having sex, STD's are real. I'm sure some people are reading this with their mouth wide open & saying I've lost my mind but I can assure you that I haven't. I just hate to hear someone actually say they NEED sex. I guess to begin with they need to learn the difference between a want & a need.

See a need is something that you can't live without & must have  in order to live or succeed in life, where as a want is just simply something you desire to possess or do, but won't perish from if you don't get it.

 In life I'm come to realize that we need air, food & water to survive, we don't need sex. So I guess I will never understand people when they get upset because their boyfriend or girlfriend won't have sex with them all because they feel they NEED it. I think at some point or another they NEED to sit down & really take a look into their "needs" vs their "wants" & really learn the difference between the two.

 

 

 

CHELLE B.

Work Too Much?????

I have been hearing this a lot therefore I decided to tackle this topic because to be honest it really makes no sense to me at all….
I don’t seem to understand it when women say “I cheated because he’s always at work, he works to much.”
Now don’t get me wrong I know there should be a balance between work and family but at the same time with the rising cost of everything, is there really a such thing as “working to much”? How can you say they don’t have time to take care of home when if they weren’t working then there couldn’t be a home to take care of. How can you say they work too much and that’s why you cheated when we know if they didn’t work at all or have anything to bring in you would use that as an excuse for cheating also. We know if he couldn’t help at home he would be all types of no good, good for nothing so & so and any other derogatory names you and your “friends” can come up with, you would start playing No Scrubs by TLC while you and your “friends” danced around the living room or the home his hard earned money is paying for. You would dance around playing music on a computer or radio that is using electricity that he is working hard to pay for. You would tell him once again “If you were taking care of home I wouldn’t of cheated”, which takes us right back to where we started how can he take care of home when there is no home to take care of.

Bottom Line: You can’t have it both ways either you want a man that will be a man and do what real men, which is work and take care of their families the best they can, or you want a boy to play house with because your son is not old enough to play and do the things you need or want done. Now that only leaves you with two choices, let the man work & you be faithful & stop complaining or you get your butt out there, get a job, let him sit home and you pay all the bills then tell me how tired you are at the end of the day and you get home and he wants this and that and everything else he feels he deserves by being your mate.
You don’t have to go out and cheat and use the excuse “He works to much” if you really feel that way then sit down talk to him about how you’re feeling and if you can’t come to a happy medium then maybe you need to find a man, my bad a boy that don’t want to work!

 

 

 

CHELLE B.

Titles & Relationships

I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW HOW IMPORTANT IS A TITLE TO YOU IN A RELATIONSHIP. Do you feel the need to identify your mate as your girlfriend and or boyfriend?

 
 
 

 I have encountered the problem myself a time or two but it seems as though I was on the other end, I didn't and still don't see a reason for having to let everyone know your relationships status. At one point I can say I wanted to put it out there but he was against for whatever reason so I agreed to it, even though I changed my status on FB for a long time it didn't say with who it just said I was in a relationship. Then when he felt he was comfortable with everything or better yet when he saw guys popping up on my page left and right he wanted to change it so it said we were in a relationship with each other. To be honest I didn't have a problem with it and it only bothered me because he was doing it for all the wrong reasons. He was doing it because he felt it would keep guys from commenting on my pictures and or in-boxing me in Facebook, needless to say he was very wrong and after the change I got more messages in my message box and like more than ever.
See to me having a "title" in a relationship is all about status and claiming, but not just any status it makes you feel as though you have an "official" status one that is meant to bring equalization to your relationship that maybe you feel the last one didn't have. As if you're trying to surpass the previous status of you all's last relationship who you feel may have held a bigger and more prominent title than you are currently holding. You feel it's a status that needs to be acknowledge by your mate, friends and or outsiders to make your relationship look official. 
See often times I tend to ask "Why Do People Need Titles" and I have came up with many reasons. Some people need validation, some people are insecure and feel better if others know their mate is with them. Some people think it tells them where they fit it and or stand with the other person, as if it may tell others what to think or expect from their relationship. They feel it will give the a sense of ownership and that in obtaining that title they have the right to have certain expectations and will know what their responsibilities in the relationship are.
People need to understand that if you're in a good and healthy relationships that you both understand then you all don't need to be fussing over spoken or unspoken status. I feel that you shouldn't need to validate your relationship just for others to feel good or know your business. Now I'm going to be honest I feel the only relationship that should hold a title and be acknowledge is "MARRIAGE". I mean if you're "boyfriend" "girlfriend" then fine no problems with that just know that putting your status out there and it not saying "married" then people still see the others are fair game, but it's up to your mate to check that person and tell you about it.
Don't get me wrong there is nothing wrong if you want to put out there that you're in a relationship, just know when doing so it attracts more people to you then not saying you're in a relationship. See you need to understand that "NO BODY WANTS SOMEBODY THAT NO ONE ELSE WANTS", and with making your relationship public it will draw more people to you and or your mate. Trust me I've seen it happen to many times. People want what they think others have, plain and simple.

I can honestly say that I believe this!!

SO I HAVE A QUESTION FOR YOU ALL: DO YOU FEEL THAT TITLES HELP OR HURT RELATIONSHIPS?



                                 




CHELLE B.

How Much Can You Endure....

 

 

As we all know there is no such thing as a perfect relationship and if anyone say there is they are lying. A relationship can be all that you make it out to be but the main question is "How Much Can You Endure" meaning how much are you willing to take and how long are you willing to stand by your mate through adversities. The same way relationships are different so are the people that are in them. You see one person may can handle way more than the other but at the same time hold it in better than the other person. Regardless of what is going on everyone has their breaking point at some point or another and they just feel like throwing in the towel, giving up and just walking away from it all. Some people tend to stay because they feel the time they have put it is far more important than walking away and actually being happy, where as others stay because they simple don't want to have to start over so comfort is far better than reality. Then you have those who stay out of guilt because they don't want to hurt the other person with fear of the backlash that it may cause.

Either way it all boils down to "how much can you endure"? One thing I do know is that you should never stay with someone out of guilt because in the end it will do more harm than good, see if the other person found out they may hurt you or themselves and or you could end up living a very lonely and unfulfilled life. Staying with someone out of guilt or pity is never the route to take no matter what the situation is or was. Now if you truly love and you're truly in love with someone then you can and will endure all just to be with that person because only you know if the sacrifices are worth it. But if you truly know in your heart of hearts that you're no longer happy and you can no longer hold on and your ready to let go, and move on then you should really share that with the other person, no need in letting them think other wise and no need in keeping them tied to you when you are no longer tied to them.

Just like anything in life if you can endure the bad and rocky times in your relationship then you will surely enjoy the gain at the end, if you can just hold out. But once again if you truly know in your heart of hearts you're no longer happy and you don't want to be there anymore then getting out will only be the fair thing to do.

Endure the pain, Enjoy the gain.

Yes I know it sounds easy to some and hard to others but if everything worth having came to us so easily then they really wouldn't be worth having now would they..

So no matter what the situation may be just ask yourself "How Much Can I Endure?"

They say LOVE endures all, how true is that?

 

 

CHELLE B.

Do Actions Speak Louder Than Words....

We all have heard the saying "Actions speak louder than words" well after careful consideration and after dealing with certain things and being put in certain situations I have come to challenge this age old saying, because if a person is listening to you their actions will mimic exactly what you want at that time, so does that really mean their heart is in it.

I feel that words have more power than you care to believe they have, see to me someone can do whatever it is they have heard you say you want or need done and it not really mean much for the simple fact that they are just going through the motions of what they know you expect and therefore they are going to do what you want or need them to do in order to get what they want and or need from you. To me if I sit and talk to a person I can gauge their feelings and true intentions through their words and words have a better chance at piercing my heart than their actions. Don't get me wrong I like to receive certain tokens of love and affection, things like "just because" flowers and cards. But to me most of the time actions are just a person going through the motions to fulfill the desire, want or need you have at the present moment or near future for their benefit of getting or obtaining something from you in the process. Understand this I can go out and buy whatever it is I think will make you happy, simply because I have sat and listened to the "words" you have spoken and since I now know that will please you I feel that if I go purchase that item I stand a better chance of getting whatever it is I want from you. See I don't just want a person doing this and doing that because you feel it's what I want and you're thinking about yourself in the process. Sit and talk to me and let me look into your soul through your eyes and hear the words that you speak that way I can tell if you're being honest and truthful with me. I don't want to have my judgment of you cloudy by the things that you do for me, let my mind and heart be cloudy by the truth that you speak into my heart and soul. You may can go out and buy me anything I want in the world but none of that will mean a thing to me if you can't speak the truth to me. See at the end of the day when you are getting to know someone or even after you feel you know them all you have is their word and I truly feel your word should be your bond and if you can't take a person at their word then their actions are fruitless. Yes I know people can tell lies but understand that actions lie and speak louder than words when you find out the action was a lie. Having someone go through the motions of "pleasing" you only to get to you or something from you. When all you should have done in the beginning was sit down and have a good face to face talk with them so you could look into their eyes and truly hear their words.

So once again I have to ask that question: Do actions really speak louder than words?



WORDS HAVE POWER

 

 

 

CHELLE B.