Are You Willing To Speak Up....

Don't Be Silent With Domestic Violence

For the life of me I'll never understand why a man would want to physically harm someone that they claim to love, what gives them the right to feel that they're justified in abusing someone else. To me a man that abuses a woman is coward, a punk & would flee if a man came at them the way they go after the lady....

I'm going to start off with the obvious:

LOVE DOESN'T HURT

I'm pretty sure everyone is tired of hearing this but the sad part of it is no matter how tired you are of hearing it it will always be true.

Love don't hurt, love don't look sad, love is not a destructive force

it's an empowering force. Love smiles, love is happy, love protects, provide, support & uplifts a person; love NEVER knocks you down & make you feel less than what you are. Love is respectful & caring, love is never jealous & controlling. 

Do you know that 1 in every 4 women will experience some type of domestic violence in their lifetime & that every 9 seconds a woman is abused by someone who claims to love them & more than half will never report the abuse for fear of not being believed & retaliation if the courts don't do their part. I've heard many people say "Why won't they just leave, they must like it" well me know that is always easier than done & none of us can actually what we will & won't do until we're in that situation. 

Abusers have to learn & know that NO MATTER WHAT it's never OK to put your hands on your mate & proving you're a man is not putting your hands on a woman, it's being able to walk away from the situation before you do. Walking away doesn't make you weak, walking away makes you a strong grown man. 

How can you claim to love your mate don't but mind seeing them look like this:

We must also remember that domestic violence isn't just physical it's also verbal & most of the time verbal abuse can do more damage than the physical abuse because where as bruises heal those words will stick with you forever. 

Whoever said "Words don't hurt" were sadly mistaken, words have caused people to take their own lives.  

Think about this the next time you raise your hand to hit a woman: Would you tolerate a man putting his hands on your mother or your daughter? Do you know what they do to women abusers in prison, keep up the foolishness & you'll find out. 

CHELLE B.

Innocent Lives Lost By A Coward

I have to say I still sit here in unbelief by the senseless act of a coward who took 49 innocent lives.

I want to say my heart, tears, concerns & prayers go out to all the families & friends that lost a dear sweet love one to such hateful act. My prayers are with Orlando during such a tragic time.

 

 

I have sat & read so many ignorant & hateful comments from people that I saw fit to do this post. Yes I identify myself as Christian and to me that means love & not passing judgment on anyone for anything, as the saying goes "who am I to judge" my life isn't stellar. Now with that being said I want to know how can people fix their mouths to say this happened because it was a "gay" club. Now if you truly feel that way then tell me why did the shooting in South Carolina happen, because we all know it happened at a CHURCH? See I wish people would actually sit & think before they start opening their mouths & spewing such hatred. I'm not to sure about many others but from my understanding the God I have a relationship with is a God of  love & not hate, so for me to see so many so called Christians say such negative & hateful things about such a tragic situation it really bothers me. We are here to pray for one another, send good vibes to one another not criticize & put down one another simply because their beliefs are different than yours, you can only give in account of your life and no one else. I also want to know why does it seem that homosexuality is the only sin in the world, when clearly it's not. But from my understanding "Love the person, hate the sin", isn't that what the bible says, meaning you show love & caring no matter what!!

Now once again to those who are saying the "terrorist" choose this club simply because it was a gay club did you wait on the reports to read that he originally had plans to attack Disney World {I guess because DW is the gayest[happiest] place on Earth} but at the last minute went into Pulse, a "gay" night club that he was known to frequent? See people are so quick to open their big mouths so they can get their little 5 seconds of fame on a camera or social media without even having all or even half the facts. I'm sure as the week goes on more & more information will come out about who this guy was but in the end we will never truly know the real reason as to why he did what he did.

So how about we take our focus off of the killer & place it where it belongs with the families & love ones of everyone involved and on gun control of our nation.

People love who they love it's no one's place to judge them or criticize for that.

 

I don't have a full list but here a few names that I was able to get, I'm working on compiling a full list.

My Prayers Are With These Families & Love Ones......

 

 

CONVERSATIONS WITH CHELLE

CHELLE B.





How Much Can You Endure....

 

 

As we all know there is no such thing as a perfect relationship and if anyone say there is they are lying. A relationship can be all that you make it out to be but the main question is "How Much Can You Endure" meaning how much are you willing to take and how long are you willing to stand by your mate through adversities. The same way relationships are different so are the people that are in them. You see one person may can handle way more than the other but at the same time hold it in better than the other person. Regardless of what is going on everyone has their breaking point at some point or another and they just feel like throwing in the towel, giving up and just walking away from it all. Some people tend to stay because they feel the time they have put it is far more important than walking away and actually being happy, where as others stay because they simple don't want to have to start over so comfort is far better than reality. Then you have those who stay out of guilt because they don't want to hurt the other person with fear of the backlash that it may cause.

Either way it all boils down to "how much can you endure"? One thing I do know is that you should never stay with someone out of guilt because in the end it will do more harm than good, see if the other person found out they may hurt you or themselves and or you could end up living a very lonely and unfulfilled life. Staying with someone out of guilt or pity is never the route to take no matter what the situation is or was. Now if you truly love and you're truly in love with someone then you can and will endure all just to be with that person because only you know if the sacrifices are worth it. But if you truly know in your heart of hearts that you're no longer happy and you can no longer hold on and your ready to let go, and move on then you should really share that with the other person, no need in letting them think other wise and no need in keeping them tied to you when you are no longer tied to them.

Just like anything in life if you can endure the bad and rocky times in your relationship then you will surely enjoy the gain at the end, if you can just hold out. But once again if you truly know in your heart of hearts you're no longer happy and you don't want to be there anymore then getting out will only be the fair thing to do.

Endure the pain, Enjoy the gain.

Yes I know it sounds easy to some and hard to others but if everything worth having came to us so easily then they really wouldn't be worth having now would they..

So no matter what the situation may be just ask yourself "How Much Can I Endure?"

They say LOVE endures all, how true is that?

 

 

CHELLE B.

Do Actions Speak Louder Than Words....

We all have heard the saying "Actions speak louder than words" well after careful consideration and after dealing with certain things and being put in certain situations I have come to challenge this age old saying, because if a person is listening to you their actions will mimic exactly what you want at that time, so does that really mean their heart is in it.

I feel that words have more power than you care to believe they have, see to me someone can do whatever it is they have heard you say you want or need done and it not really mean much for the simple fact that they are just going through the motions of what they know you expect and therefore they are going to do what you want or need them to do in order to get what they want and or need from you. To me if I sit and talk to a person I can gauge their feelings and true intentions through their words and words have a better chance at piercing my heart than their actions. Don't get me wrong I like to receive certain tokens of love and affection, things like "just because" flowers and cards. But to me most of the time actions are just a person going through the motions to fulfill the desire, want or need you have at the present moment or near future for their benefit of getting or obtaining something from you in the process. Understand this I can go out and buy whatever it is I think will make you happy, simply because I have sat and listened to the "words" you have spoken and since I now know that will please you I feel that if I go purchase that item I stand a better chance of getting whatever it is I want from you. See I don't just want a person doing this and doing that because you feel it's what I want and you're thinking about yourself in the process. Sit and talk to me and let me look into your soul through your eyes and hear the words that you speak that way I can tell if you're being honest and truthful with me. I don't want to have my judgment of you cloudy by the things that you do for me, let my mind and heart be cloudy by the truth that you speak into my heart and soul. You may can go out and buy me anything I want in the world but none of that will mean a thing to me if you can't speak the truth to me. See at the end of the day when you are getting to know someone or even after you feel you know them all you have is their word and I truly feel your word should be your bond and if you can't take a person at their word then their actions are fruitless. Yes I know people can tell lies but understand that actions lie and speak louder than words when you find out the action was a lie. Having someone go through the motions of "pleasing" you only to get to you or something from you. When all you should have done in the beginning was sit down and have a good face to face talk with them so you could look into their eyes and truly hear their words.

So once again I have to ask that question: Do actions really speak louder than words?



WORDS HAVE POWER

 

 

 

CHELLE B.