**Hypocrisy In The Christian Community**

Now since this election started there has been much mud slinging & ditch digging from one party to the next & I can't honestly say who's done the most {I can I just won't}. We have to face facts that somewhere down the line we failed ourselves because it was the lack of knowledge or not caring enough to vote that actually put the people in place that allowed them to even be considered. 

Now with that being said I've seen many Christian's endorse a man that has done & said some of the foulest things ever spoken by a presidential candidate, they've made excuses for all the wrong he's done. I truly understand the art of forgiveness but I also understand the art of holding a person accountable for their bad actions & instead of reprimand they gave excuses & praise. And people wonder why so many have issues with "the church" & religion, well this is one of the reasons. You have some that have been judge, jury & executioner for Hillary stating things in her past but have been quick to forgive Trump for the things in his past & some even present. The last time I checked it's not up to us to judge anyone but it seems many have forgotten about that. How can you hold one person accountable for their wrong doings but not the other, where is God in that? Now I'm sure most of you Christian's are voting for him because you all are republicans & therefore share the same values as you but that is not true, as a matter of fact if you all are honest with yourselves y'all truly don't know where he stands on any real issues. You say Hillary is a killer because she supports "abortions", really does that make her a killer or a person who feels the government shouldn't have a say so over a lady's body, where as Trump wants Roe v Wade overturned. Many of you have been quick to say that she stood behind her cheating husband when clearly the marriage vows say for better or worse. Yet y'all uphold a man that has been married 3 times & cheated on all his wives {facts}. You all condemn her & call her a racist yet so is Donald & he's let that be known many many times, plus this man has shown little to no respect for females of all racist. You all have called her a liar but once again Donald has had to moonwalk himself out of several dumb idiotic lies he's told. 

Bottom line is this: STOP using God to justify why you're voting for this loud, foul mouth, woman hating, non-christian, lying hypocrite. STOP using the word "moral" where it involves him because he has shown none!! 

Say Ouch or Amen!!!!

It seems to me that hypocrites gravitate towards each other .....

Conversations With Chelle 

Chelle B.

Innocent Lives Lost By A Coward

I have to say I still sit here in unbelief by the senseless act of a coward who took 49 innocent lives.

I want to say my heart, tears, concerns & prayers go out to all the families & friends that lost a dear sweet love one to such hateful act. My prayers are with Orlando during such a tragic time.

 

 

I have sat & read so many ignorant & hateful comments from people that I saw fit to do this post. Yes I identify myself as Christian and to me that means love & not passing judgment on anyone for anything, as the saying goes "who am I to judge" my life isn't stellar. Now with that being said I want to know how can people fix their mouths to say this happened because it was a "gay" club. Now if you truly feel that way then tell me why did the shooting in South Carolina happen, because we all know it happened at a CHURCH? See I wish people would actually sit & think before they start opening their mouths & spewing such hatred. I'm not to sure about many others but from my understanding the God I have a relationship with is a God of  love & not hate, so for me to see so many so called Christians say such negative & hateful things about such a tragic situation it really bothers me. We are here to pray for one another, send good vibes to one another not criticize & put down one another simply because their beliefs are different than yours, you can only give in account of your life and no one else. I also want to know why does it seem that homosexuality is the only sin in the world, when clearly it's not. But from my understanding "Love the person, hate the sin", isn't that what the bible says, meaning you show love & caring no matter what!!

Now once again to those who are saying the "terrorist" choose this club simply because it was a gay club did you wait on the reports to read that he originally had plans to attack Disney World {I guess because DW is the gayest[happiest] place on Earth} but at the last minute went into Pulse, a "gay" night club that he was known to frequent? See people are so quick to open their big mouths so they can get their little 5 seconds of fame on a camera or social media without even having all or even half the facts. I'm sure as the week goes on more & more information will come out about who this guy was but in the end we will never truly know the real reason as to why he did what he did.

So how about we take our focus off of the killer & place it where it belongs with the families & love ones of everyone involved and on gun control of our nation.

People love who they love it's no one's place to judge them or criticize for that.

 

I don't have a full list but here a few names that I was able to get, I'm working on compiling a full list.

My Prayers Are With These Families & Love Ones......

 

 

CONVERSATIONS WITH CHELLE

CHELLE B.





The Great Snap Debate

My oh my where do I even begin with this one right here, guess the only thing to do is just jump right to it.

I've been seeing certain stupid post {yes I called them stupid you will soon see why} then after seeing a YouTube video a few days ago where a lady was literally in line at a store berating & cursing a young father out not only in front of his kid but also hers & the words that were coming out her mouth was just pure ignorant & I feel sorry for her son because of the things she's teaching him.

Now in case you haven't figured out what I'm talking about I'll tell you, there seems to be this BIG misconception about the use of food stamps, I see all these ignorant pictures like this right here....

 

Now correct me if I'm wrong but if a person has kids, no job & they're receiving food stamps then those stamps only last for so long. What do you think the parents do when the food runs out before the next month comes, now tell the people what do your hardworking self do when your food runs out? See you have more income coming in & go out and purchase food items if need be but a family receiving food stamps don't have that luxury, they have to "get by" the best way they can. I'm not really sure how much people seem to think a person gets monthly in food stamps but I'm sure it's way less than they make working where they may get paid 4 times or month or twice a month. Also people would be surprised at the people who work but still get food stamps to try & help subsidize their minimal income so their kids can at least have a decent meal during the week.
I don't seem to understand why the food stamp shaming is taking place, I've spoken with several people on both sides of the spectrum & I can assure you that those who get stamps would gladly trade places with those of you who unlucky people who have to pay for your food with cash. They would trade places with you because they feel they would have a sustainable income where they can better provide for their kids & they wouldn't have to rely on so many processed foods just to make their food budget stretch month to month. How many of you would be willing to try & make it an entire month off of the amount of stamps that they get & yes you have to take in account the amount of  mouths they have to feed oppose to the amount you have to feed? I've seen several "celebrities" take the "food stamp" challenge & many of them have been honest & said they don't see how it's done.

See I've been on both sides of the spectrum & I can honestly say that I prefer working & buying groceries every pay period oppose to once a month, I can honestly tell you that I bought more groceries with cash every month than I did with food stamps. So if you're feeling some type of way about the buggy on the left & think it's so unfair because you're a hard working tax payer let me leave you with this small bit of information to chew on while you're being pissed off about someone actually using their Snap benefits for feeding their kids......



Now about the woman {and others who think like her} that was berating the man in the store for using food stamps & claiming that she pays so much out her taxes for people like him, since she's so smart she might want to fact check herself & realize that $1 of every $5 spent to purchase items on food stamps is spent at WalMart. And because of Walmart’s low wages, even full-time employees often still qualify for benefits. She would also know that the amount of taxes coming out of her paycheck {if what she's saying is true about her paying taxes}for the snap program amount to only around $0.10 cents a day, which when added up is only $36.50 a year.
So next time before you repost one of the ignorant "memes" about anything you may want to fact check yourself so you won't end up looking like a donkey's backside in the long run.

You never know what someone's story is, so why bully & shame them for trying

to feed their kids the best way they can, which happens to be Snap benefits.

 



CHELLE B.  

Work Too Much?????

I have been hearing this a lot therefore I decided to tackle this topic because to be honest it really makes no sense to me at all….
I don’t seem to understand it when women say “I cheated because he’s always at work, he works to much.”
Now don’t get me wrong I know there should be a balance between work and family but at the same time with the rising cost of everything, is there really a such thing as “working to much”? How can you say they don’t have time to take care of home when if they weren’t working then there couldn’t be a home to take care of. How can you say they work too much and that’s why you cheated when we know if they didn’t work at all or have anything to bring in you would use that as an excuse for cheating also. We know if he couldn’t help at home he would be all types of no good, good for nothing so & so and any other derogatory names you and your “friends” can come up with, you would start playing No Scrubs by TLC while you and your “friends” danced around the living room or the home his hard earned money is paying for. You would dance around playing music on a computer or radio that is using electricity that he is working hard to pay for. You would tell him once again “If you were taking care of home I wouldn’t of cheated”, which takes us right back to where we started how can he take care of home when there is no home to take care of.

Bottom Line: You can’t have it both ways either you want a man that will be a man and do what real men, which is work and take care of their families the best they can, or you want a boy to play house with because your son is not old enough to play and do the things you need or want done. Now that only leaves you with two choices, let the man work & you be faithful & stop complaining or you get your butt out there, get a job, let him sit home and you pay all the bills then tell me how tired you are at the end of the day and you get home and he wants this and that and everything else he feels he deserves by being your mate.
You don’t have to go out and cheat and use the excuse “He works to much” if you really feel that way then sit down talk to him about how you’re feeling and if you can’t come to a happy medium then maybe you need to find a man, my bad a boy that don’t want to work!

 

 

 

CHELLE B.

How Much Can You Endure....

 

 

As we all know there is no such thing as a perfect relationship and if anyone say there is they are lying. A relationship can be all that you make it out to be but the main question is "How Much Can You Endure" meaning how much are you willing to take and how long are you willing to stand by your mate through adversities. The same way relationships are different so are the people that are in them. You see one person may can handle way more than the other but at the same time hold it in better than the other person. Regardless of what is going on everyone has their breaking point at some point or another and they just feel like throwing in the towel, giving up and just walking away from it all. Some people tend to stay because they feel the time they have put it is far more important than walking away and actually being happy, where as others stay because they simple don't want to have to start over so comfort is far better than reality. Then you have those who stay out of guilt because they don't want to hurt the other person with fear of the backlash that it may cause.

Either way it all boils down to "how much can you endure"? One thing I do know is that you should never stay with someone out of guilt because in the end it will do more harm than good, see if the other person found out they may hurt you or themselves and or you could end up living a very lonely and unfulfilled life. Staying with someone out of guilt or pity is never the route to take no matter what the situation is or was. Now if you truly love and you're truly in love with someone then you can and will endure all just to be with that person because only you know if the sacrifices are worth it. But if you truly know in your heart of hearts that you're no longer happy and you can no longer hold on and your ready to let go, and move on then you should really share that with the other person, no need in letting them think other wise and no need in keeping them tied to you when you are no longer tied to them.

Just like anything in life if you can endure the bad and rocky times in your relationship then you will surely enjoy the gain at the end, if you can just hold out. But once again if you truly know in your heart of hearts you're no longer happy and you don't want to be there anymore then getting out will only be the fair thing to do.

Endure the pain, Enjoy the gain.

Yes I know it sounds easy to some and hard to others but if everything worth having came to us so easily then they really wouldn't be worth having now would they..

So no matter what the situation may be just ask yourself "How Much Can I Endure?"

They say LOVE endures all, how true is that?

 

 

CHELLE B.

Mother Yes....Father No....

Now with Father's Day being two days away I decided to tackle this topic.

Now I'm sure this will ruffle some feathers but the only thing I can say right now is "OH WELL",

see I can write about this and say this because this use to be me until a few years ago.

For years single mothers have felt a need to have both Mother's Day and Father's Day, like I said at one point I was in that same boat but really realized a few years ago I needed to get out and get on the sideline so all the "REAL" dads could enjoy their day; I mean once you think about it they have earned it.

You see whether the father is around or not I am still just MOM, I was not born with a penis between my legs nor do I have the desire to be a man so why should I celebrate a mans holiday. Why should I insert myself into a day that was set aside just for them when they didn't insert themselves in a day that was designated just for me. As women we need to understand and realize that we can't be mom and dad, we can be mom and mom only. Yes you may be there twenty four seven with no help from the sperm donor but at the same time you can't be what you are not and that is a man. The only thing you can do is be the best mom you know how to be and not try to be the man. We all have heard the saying a woman can't raise a man, well that may be true to a certain extent, I raised a fine young man but I have to admit he had wonderful male role models in his life along the way and to be truthful I didn't do it by myself.

I understand that some women have been made bitter and angry because they have to do the job by themselves but at the same time it doesn't make you the mother and the father because you didn't make them by yourselves, there was a man involved in the situation at some point in time. Yes some of us have the right to be angry but if most of us sat down and thought about the situation we would realize we put ourselves in the "single" parent realm. We knew if it was just suppose to be a booty call, we knew that the guy wasn't father or mate material and some even knew he had a "main" lady but you figured having a baby would keep him around. Now how wrong was that thought?

 

Also ladies it's like this if you have a man that wants to be a part of their kid/kids life please don't stop them simply because things didn't work out between y'all. You see in the end the only one that is getting hurt and suffering is the child, not the man and I'm sure not you. Stop bashing the man in front of the child and let the child grow up to see things for themselves. You never know what the man might be willing to do if you just put your hurt and anger to the side and let him in the kid/kids life. They may just surprise you!

 

Bottom Line for me is this:

Do you, be the best mom you know how to be and come Sunday, June 16, 2013 salute all the real DADS that you know and give them the praise they deserve because that day is set aside just for them the same way Mother's Day is set aside just for us.

 

LADIES THIS IS WHAT I HAVE TO SAY TO YOU ACCEPT IT OR NOT IT'S TRUE

 

 

CHELLE B.